Saturday, October 26, 2013

An Important but Neglected Distinction


There is an important distinction which is absolutely vital to good theology and to a healthy Christian life. It is also a distinction which seems to have been missed by large numbers of people on both the left and the right of the theological spectrum. It is the distinction between childish and childlike. Christians are called to have a faith with the latter quality; not so the former.

I suspect that future generations may well look back on the present day as an era of unsurpassed childishness in the history of mankind. The vast amounts of money paid to grown men to play playground games for the entertainment of the rest of us simply beggars belief.   The cultural influence ascribed to young pop stars is quite bizarre. I mean, whatever one's opinion of government health care, surely we can all agree that Justin Bieber's opinions on the matter can be safely ignored? And the compulsive need of otherwise apparently intelligent people to tweet the most mind-boggling banalities of their lives into the public domain is startling. To these relatively trivial acts of childishness we might also add the more sinister: the development of a political and legal culture which refuses to recognize any shades of grey. As to morality, the spoiled infants really have taken over the universe of moral discourse when a man who deserts his wife for another man is more likely to be hailed as a cultural hero because of his courageous honesty than decried as a sleazy cretin for his cowardly capitulation to his hormones.

Sadly, this pervades the church as well. Many megachurches have grown prosperous through the strange, unexpected but undoubtedly successful marriage of a broadly orthodox theology with childish idioms. Further, many Christians in churches that are not so 'mega' have their childish ways and their childish people. It is not simply those pastors who dress like slovenly thirteen year olds when they preach that exhibit such qualities. All of us can be tempted in this direction when we are not given what we want and proceed immediately thereafter to throw out of our little prams whatever toys we happen to have. And what can one say about the consistent failure of the Christian twitterati, from the least to the greatest, to understand that some things are for public consumption and that some things are to be kept private? Knowing when to speak in public and when to keep discreetly and modestly quiet (especially about one's own successes) used to be a basic part of what it meant to grow up.  

Perhaps at the very heart of childishness lies the inability to acknowledge any kind of external authority. The toddler screaming for the confiscated teddy bear is expressing outrage that his world has been changed against his will, in much the same way as the teenager whose life has (and I quote) 'been like totally ruined' because her cell phone has been taken away from her for the evening by an irate parent. So much of what we think of as childish behavior, such as  tantrums, petty rule breaking, and insolence, contains a significant dose of the repudiation of external authority.

Some years ago I remember engaging someone on the issue of biblical authority. This individual, at the time a professing Christian, simply could not accept the claims that the Bible made on his life. Gradually, I noticed a pattern emerging: this person also hated the fact that his employer held him accountable, that there were elders in the church who wanted to hold him accountable, and that his father had held him accountable. It became clear to me that this person was not struggling with biblical authority in particular; he was struggling with external authority in general. Ironically, the West has tended to hold up such individualism and independence as a sign of maturity. As we see the latest stage of that project unfolding before us and the Western world becoming a place where law courts are needed to decide where five year olds can use the bathroom, I think the childishness of the trajectory becomes all too clear.  And, by the way, in the case to which I allude, it is the five year olds, not the adults, who have won. That should tell you something.

Childlikeness, however, is the very antithesis of childishness. If childishness involves the refusal to acknowledge external authority, and thus a refusal to acknowledge one's own limits and one's own lack of uniqueness in this world, childlikeness is very different. To be childlike is to accept that one is not the measure of all things. Children at their best are those who look to others, especially adults, that they might learn things of which they are as yet ignorant. Being childlike involves trusting the parent or the older sibling for protection, drawing on their wisdom, knowing that the grown-ups have competences and abilities which are there to help. 

In the Christian world, one might add that it involves an acceptance of the power and authority of God, of the sufficiency of his revelation, and of the full adequacy of the salvation he has wrought in Christ. It also involves being involved in the local church, looking to the elders and the deacons for support and for nurture. It involves realising that one does not stand apart from, or above, the body of Christ: one is part of it and under his authority as the head.

To return to the example of the man I mentioned above. I recall a comment by Karl Barth concerning scripture. Now, while I do not endorse Barth's view of scripture, this saying has stayed with me since I read it. It went something like this: I know that scripture is the word of God in the way that I know my mother is my mother. Now, I confess that I have never asked my mother to take a DNA test. I do have a copy of my birth certificate, on which her name appears, but I have never used this as a basis for my relationship with her, nor have I ever tried to find out if the certificate had been somehow forged as part of a wider conspiracy to confuse me. I have always simply known that my mother is mother and I do not regard my conviction in this matter as remotely irrational, embarrassing, ill-founded or ridiculous. I confess that I do recall in one particularly unpleasant row in my teenage years yelling 'You're not my mother!' but the cry was a calculatedly cruel insult, not a statement of biological fact or of personal belief. I would also argue that, ironically, the statement marked the high watermark of my teenage stupidity and childishness.

Herman Bavinck says that the Christian accepts God's special revelation in Christ in childlike faith. That is an implausible claim in a world where childlikeness is so despised and childishness so exalted. But it captures nicely the thought expressed by Christ himself who pointed to children as paradigmatic for the manner in which his words should be received.  

Growth in Christian maturity should manifest itself in numerous ways. One of them is that we should become less and less enamoured  with the myths we tell ourselves of how unique we are as individuals, of how we have limitless potential, of how we really do have the last word on everything. In short, we should become less childish. Instead, we should become more conscious of how we are really just like everyone else - limited, dependent, finite, fallen. We should also learn more and more to find our fulfillment in resting in the simple biblical, catechetical faith which describes who we are, what we need, and how we can find it in submitting in humble and reverent faith to Christ. In other words, we should become less childish and more childlike.

Article by Dr. Carl R. Trueman is Paul Woolley Professor of Church History at Westminster Theological Seminary. His latest book is The Creedal Imperative (Crossway, 2012).

Saturday, October 19, 2013

Pastoral Visitation: The God-Given Responsibility to Shepherd


God has given to the elders of His Church the responsibility to shepherd His flock. Paul says in Acts 20:28, "Pay attention to yourselves and to all of the flock among which the Holy Spirit has set you to be overseers to shepherd God's church, that He acquired with His own blood." Similarly, Peter wrote in 1 Peter 5:1-3, "Therefore, I urge the elders among you, as a fellow elder and witness of Christ's sufferings and as a sharer of the glory that is going to be revealed, to shepherd God's flock among you, exercising shepherdly care over it, not out of obligation but willingly, as God would have you do it; not out of eagerness to make a personal profit, but out of eagerness to serve; not lording it over those allotted to your charge, but by becoming models for the flock."

This is no small task. Church officers will give an answer to God for the discharge of their office.  In fact, Hebrews 13:17 says, "Obey your leaders and submit to them. They are keeping watch over your lives as men who will have to give an account." One of the principle ways this oversight is exercised is in pastoral visitation.  

Yet, sad to say, pastoral visits are not always used in a manner that allows the parties involved to reap the greatest spiritual benefits. One thing you may do to increase the profit of a pastoral visit is to prepare for it. If families prepared for pastoral visits, then the time spent would be extremely more profitable. How then does one prepare?   

Taking a Spiritual Inventory

In the first place, use the occasion of a pastoral visit to take a spiritual inventory of your life.  Examine yourself, your relationship to God, and others (your family, neighbors, co-workers, the world, etc.) to determine how you are doing spiritually. Seek an answer to such questions as:  How do I know for sure that I am a Christian? Am I engaged in regular Bible Study and prayer?  Can I say with certainty that on a daily basis I am dying to sin, and living more righteously?  What sins am I struggling with? Can I point to areas in my life where I have grown? If you have a family, then ask yourself these questions: How is my family doing spiritually? What am I doing regarding family devotions? Do I see any evidence of grace in the lives of my children? Are my children showing an increased interest in the things of the Lord? Do they like prayer, Bible reading, attending worship, and singing hymns and psalms? If you prepare in this way, then you will be able to give a substantive answer when asked about your spiritual growth. Furthermore, you will benefit spiritually from the period of self-examination.   

Being Honest About Your Problems

Out of this spiritual inventory should flow a second area of preparation. Are there any areas in your Christian experience with which you are having problems? In James 5:16 we are called to confess our sins to one another. The pastoral visit is the perfect time to be honest and open about your problems. Are you having trouble with consistently studying the Bible or family devotions? Is there a particular sin that continues to get the upper hand in your life? Do not wait until the problem is insurmountable. Be prepared to share your problems and to seek counsel and prayer concerning them.     

Seeking the Advice of Your Elders
   
A third area of preparation deals with the direct solicitation of advice. Be prepared to ask those visiting you if they see any problem areas in your life (or in the lives of your family members) that need to be addressed. Do not be afraid to ask these kinds of questions. We have all had spiritual blinders on at one time or another. Seeking the advice of others who have gone through similar difficulties will provide you with helpful insights to deal with your problems. In the same manner, ask your elders if there are things that you could be doing to serve the Lord. We all have promised to support the work of the church with our time, talents and treasures. Finding out where we can be of use not only blesses us, but will also give us an opportunity to be a blessing to our brothers and sisters in the Lord.   

Your Spiritual Doctors Are Here to Serve You

When an individual goes to his doctor for a check-up, he usually gives some thought to how he is feeling. The individual evaluates his various aches and pains, seeking to determine which are important and which are not. The tragedy is that sometimes a person may fail to tell the doctor about a particular symptom because he deems it unimportant, or worse, because he is afraid of what it might mean. Yet, that symptom might be the early warning sign of some serious disease that could be remedied more easily in its present state. If the problem is ignored, then the disease worsens, until finally measures that are more serious need to be taken, or as it happens, it is too late to act. Your elders are physicians of your soul. Their task will be much easier and more effective if you will examine yourself and speak openly and frankly to them about your spiritual condition and needs. Remember that an ounce of prevention is better than a pound of cure. This maxim is true for our spiritual life as well. Let us practice spiritual preventative medicine! 

Below is a list of questions for both congregants and elders to review before a pastoral visit:

Test yourselves to see if you are in the faith; examine yourselves.  2 Cor. 13:5 

I.      YOUR UNDERSTANDING OF YOURSELF 

* Do you know for sure that you are a Christian? 
* Are you engaged in regular Bible Study? Alternatively, are you having difficulty with consistent Bible Study and family devotions? 
* How is your prayer life? Do you pray regularly? 
* Can you point to areas of your life where you have grown recently? 
* Are there any areas in your Christian experience in which you are having problems? 
* Is there a particular temptation or sin that continues to defeat you spiritually? 
* Where would you like to see yourself be spiritually in 1 year, 5 years, 10 years? 

II.     YOUR UNDERSTANDING OF GOD 

* What has God been teaching you about Himself lately? Or, what Attribute of God has meant the most to you recently? 
* Are there any theological truths/doctrines that you are wrestling with, confused about, or need clarification on? Have any of your theological beliefs changed? 
* What Christian books have you read lately? 
* Are you able to share your faith with others? If not, would you be interested in learning how to share your faith?  Would you like to be discipled? 

III.    YOUR RELATIONSHIP TO THE WORLD 

* If you have a family, how is your family doing spiritually? What are you doing with respect to family devotions (Bible reading, prayer, catechism, etc.)? 
* Do you see any evidence of grace in the lives of your children? Are they showing an increased interest in the things of the Lord? Do they like to pray and read the Bible? Are they baptized?   Are they ready to make a profession of faith?   
* How is your relationship with your Spouse? Children? Others? 
* How do others see your walk as a Christian (home, neighbors, work, church, etc.)? 
* How are you seeking to affect the world around you with your Christian faith? 

IV.     YOUR RELATIONSHIP TO THE CHURCH 

* What would you like to see improved at our Church? 
* What do you especially like about our Church? 
* What kind of advice/counsel can we provide you with at this time?

Article by  published August 2013

Dr. Joseph A. Pipa, Jr. is President and Professor of Historical and Systematic Theology at Greenville Presbyterian Theological Seminary in Greenville, South Carolina. He has pastored churches is Mississippi, Texas, and California and is the author of numerous books, the latest of which is Galatians: God's Proclamation of Liberty (Christian Focus, 2011).

Saturday, October 12, 2013

Keeping Church Un-cool




Mr. McCracken was responding to an opinion piece written by Rachel Held Evans regarding “Millennials” (i.e. the youth of this generation) leaving the church because the church does not respond to their needs. (See her article at http://religion.blogs.cnn.com/2013/07/27/why-millennials-are-leaving-the-church/) She stated in her article “I would encourage church leaders eager to win Millennials back to sit down and really talk with them about what they’re looking for and what they would like to contribute to a faith community.”

McCracken mostly opposes this thinking and states, “How about the opposite? Millennials: why don’t we take our pastors, parents, and older Christian brothers and sisters out to coffee and listen to them? Perhaps instead of perpetuating our sense of entitlement and Twitter/blog/Instagram-fueled obsession with hearing ourselves speak, we could just shut up for a minute and listen to the wisdom of those who have gone before?”

He further writes, “And for pastors, church leaders, and others so concerned with the survival of the church amidst the glut of “adapt or die!” hype, is asking Millennials what they want church to be and adjusting accordingly really your best bet? Are we really to believe that today’s #hashtagging, YOLO-oriented, selfie-obsessed generation of Millennials has more wisdom to offer about the church than those who have thought about and faithfully served the church decade after decade, amidst all its warts, challenges and ups and down?

Part of the problem is the hubris of every generation, which thinks it has discovered, once and for all, the right way of doing things. C.S. Lewis called it “chronological snobbery,” defining it as “the uncritical acceptance of the intellectual climate common to our own age and the assumption that whatever has gone out of date is on that account discredited.”

But a deeper problem is that Christianity has become too obsessed with how it is perceived. Just like the Photoshop-savvy Millennials she is so desperate to retain, the church is ever more meticulously concerned with her image, monitoring what people are saying about her and taking cues from that.”
He continues, “But at the end of the day, the Christian gospel is defined outside of and with little regard to whatever itch people think Christianity should scratch. Consumerism asserts that people want what they want and get what they want, for a price. It’s all about me. But to position the gospel within this consumerist, give-them-what-they-want framework is to open the door to all sorts of distortions, mutations, and “to each his own” cockamamy variations. If Christianity aims to sell a message that scratches a pluralism of itches, how in the world will a cohesive, orthodox, unified gospel survive?”

McCracken summarizes his article with this, “As a Millennial, if I’m truly honest with myself, what I really need from the church is not another yes-man entity enabling my hubris and giving me what I want. Rather, what I need is something bigger than me, older than me, bound by a truth that transcends me and a story that will outlast me; basically, something that doesn’t change to fit me and my whims, but changes me to be the Christ-like person I was created to be.”

Now to the comments.  Here is a sample of the 70 plus comments by the readers.
SuburbanRabbi
I think the issue here is far more complex than having a cool church or a real church, etc. Our culture has changed dramatically in the past 25 years. America has switched hips to rest on since the Beatles, the killings of JKF, RFK and MLK along with Viet Nam, Woodstock and finally the resignation of Nixon. After that decade of change everything has been up for grabs, including church. Then we had the decade of "Friends" and the public sex drama of President Clinton and Monica Lewinsky. Our newscasters don't report news anymore. They make it. Language and culture are important. Music and technology have shaped our hearts. The church in America is now at the edge of our culture. That's where we were in the 1st century. We did OK. We had too. We will still. Keep being authentic and keep learning about the early church. What they believed is what they did! So what do we really believe by the evidence of the things that we do?

 AmyEdits
I wandered around in church life for 40 years--mostly Protestant. Then I found a home in the Orthodox Church. It is deep, rich, challenging, and incredibly worshipful. Why settle for fragments of the church when you can have the fullness?

geoffrobinson
I am now Reformed, but I grew up Roman Catholic. And although I have major disagreements now with Roman Catholic theology, I'll explain really easily why I hated going to church until I was 16. I was an unregenerate sinner. I would offer for consideration that many of the issues here is that many of the young hate God and the things of God.
 
Bookwyrm
I have been saying some of these very things, although not as eloquently and clearly. But the reason I stayed in the church while growing up is that I saw Jesus in the lives of the saints who worshipped at my church. They were very unhip - some poor, very old-fashioned, some uneducated (although others were highly educated and well-off), but they were the genuine article. They lived up to what they believed and their lives had a grace and peace that I thought was miraculous and I attributed it to God. They loved me, were interested in me, cared for me through some awkward years...and they lived lives of generosity.
 
DrivenB4U
I would offer that you could seek professional help to repair the damage religious delusion has done to you.  Also the young don't hate god. They've just figured out it's a trick.


Is it just a trick?  Is the church to change with the time to be significant or relevant?  Should the church import the latest music, dress, lifestyle, etc.?   If the church in America is currently “on the edge of our culture” where is the drop off point?  Ask yourself, “Is my church providing worship in a “deep, rich, challenging” way?  Or is worship not the point anymore?   Are members of the church living up to what they believe and emulating Jesus in their lives and making an impact on others?  What are your thoughts?

Saturday, October 5, 2013

Listening: Nothing Is More Godlike







A counselor friend recently received this email from a couple that he and his wife had counseled:
“It was great to be with you yesterday and I want to thank you. You guys were great listeners. Allowing my wife to share the depths of her pain and express a brief picture of the extent of suffering we have experienced over these past two years was healing. She really felt heard and not overly diagnosed or analyzed. Before coming, she was afraid of having all her phrases picked apart for their rightness and wrongness. Instead, you really hurt for her. Your sympathy and expression over the severity of the trials were a great comfort. Thanks for being the body of Christ to us.”
Two sentences particularly struck me: “You guys were great listeners.” “She really felt heard.”
May I suggest that no ministry action we take is more Godlike than good listening?

 

God Listens to God


Just how Godlike is listening? It’s what God does toward God. The Persons in the Godhead listen to each other.
The Father listens to his Son: “Then Jesus looked up and said, ‘Father, I thank you that you have heard me. I knew that you always hear me, but I said this for the benefit of the people standing here, that they may believe that you sent me.” (John 11:41-42). The Son listens to his Father: “I have much to say in judgment of you. But he who sent me is reliable, and what I have heard from him I tell the world” (John 8:26). “These words you hear are not my own; they belong to the Father who sent me” (John 14:24). And the Holy Spirit listens to both the Father and the Son: “But when he, the Spirit of truth, comes, he will guide you into all truth. He will not speak on his own; he will speak only what he hears, and he will tell you what is yet to come” (John 16:13).

God Listens to Us

But God not only listens to Himself. He also listens to us. As biblical counselor Wayne Mack put it, “The fact that our Triune God is a good listener should powerfully motivate us to improve in this area. The three persons of the Trinity listen carefully to each other and, amazingly, to us!”
Consider the moving story of the Egyptian slave woman Hagar in Genesis 16. Mistreated by Abram and Sarai, and pregnant and alone as a single mom, she fled and began her journey back to her homeland. But God’s eyes and ears of grace were open toward her. As she headed home, the angel of the Lord (an appearance of God himself) found her in the desert. He spoke to her, counseled her to return, and promised great blessing to her and her son. The angel then told her to name her son Ishmael. Why? “For the Lord has heard of your misery” (v. 11). (In Hebrew, the name Ishmael means God hears.) God’s love and care for this distressed woman began when God heard her cries. And it continued in an equally stirring scene in Genesis 21:17, when the angel of God assures her, “Do not be afraid; God has heard the boy crying. . . .”

God Our Listener-Redeemer

When did God’s deliverance of Israel out of Egypt begin? While we might look to his burning bush appearance to Moses in Exodus 3, the previous chapter highlights something that was prior to and causative of all of the Exodus actions: “During that long period, the king of Egypt died. The Israelites groaned in their slavery and cried out, and their cry for help because of their slavery went up to God.
God heard their groaning and he remembered his covenant with Abraham, with Isaac and with Jacob. So God looked on the Israelites and was concerned about them” (Exodus 2:23-25). The Lord later repeats the same point to Moses when he appears in the burning bush (3:7-8): God’s hearing initiated the Exodus sequence. Israel’s salvation began with the eyes and ears of a Redeemer who sees, hears, feels concern, and then acts.
Do you ever delight in the saving ears of God? “The eyes of the Lord are on the righteous and his ears are attentive to their prayer. . . . The righteous cry out, and the Lord hears them; he delivers them from all their troubles” (Psalm 34:15, 17; cf. 1 Peter 3:12). “I waited patiently for the Lord; he turned to me and heard my cry” (Psalm 40:1). “I love the Lord, for he heard my voice; he heard my cry for mercy. Because he turned his ear to me, I will call on him as long as I live” (Psalm 116:1–2).

Listening to Others with the Ears of God

One takeaway for counselors seems obvious: Listen to others as God has listened to us. Here Dietrich Bonhoeffer’s rich insights remain unsurpassed:
“The first service that one owes to others in the fellowship consists in listening to them. . . . It is God’s love for us that he not only gives us His Word but also lends us His ear. . . . But Christians have forgotten that the ministry of listening has been committed to them by Him who is Himself the great listener and whose work they should share. We should listen with the ears of God that we may speak the Word of God” (Life Together, chapter 4).
Thank you, God, for being the Great Listener and for savingly listening to us. Help us to be like you in this way, knowing that there is nothing that we do that is more like you.

Join the Conversation

How much do you value listening in your friendships and ministries? What biblical truths motivate you to listen well? How have you seen God bless your efforts to listen well to others? Who are the top listeners in your life—friends, spouses, pastors, counselors? In what specific ways has God used them to help you or encourage you?

From an article by Robert Jones -  published
http://biblicalcounselingcoalition.org