God has given to the elders of His Church the responsibility
to shepherd His flock. Paul says in
Acts 20:28,
"Pay attention to yourselves and to all of the flock among which the Holy
Spirit has set you to be overseers to shepherd God's church, that He acquired
with His own blood." Similarly, Peter wrote in
1 Peter 5:1-3,
"Therefore, I urge the elders among you, as a fellow elder and witness of
Christ's sufferings and as a sharer of the glory that is going to be revealed,
to shepherd God's flock among you, exercising shepherdly care over it, not out
of obligation but willingly, as God would have you do it; not out of eagerness
to make a personal profit, but out of eagerness to serve; not lording it over
those allotted to your charge, but by becoming models for the flock."
This is no small task. Church officers will give an answer
to God for the discharge of their office. In fact,
Hebrews 13:17
says, "Obey your leaders and submit to them. They are keeping watch over
your lives as men who will have to give an account." One of the principle
ways this oversight is exercised is in pastoral visitation.
Yet, sad to say, pastoral visits are not always used in a
manner that allows the parties involved to reap the greatest spiritual
benefits. One thing you may do to increase the profit of a pastoral visit is to
prepare for it. If families prepared for pastoral visits, then the time spent
would be extremely more profitable. How then does one prepare?
Taking a Spiritual Inventory
In the first place, use the occasion of a pastoral visit to
take a spiritual inventory of your life. Examine yourself, your
relationship to God, and others (your family, neighbors, co-workers, the world,
etc.) to determine how you are doing spiritually. Seek an answer to such
questions as: How do I know for sure that I am a Christian? Am I engaged
in regular Bible Study and prayer? Can I say with certainty that on a
daily basis I am dying to sin, and living more righteously? What sins am
I struggling with? Can I point to areas in my life where I have grown? If you
have a family, then ask yourself these questions: How is my family doing
spiritually? What am I doing regarding family devotions? Do I see any evidence
of grace in the lives of my children? Are my children showing an increased
interest in the things of the Lord? Do they like prayer, Bible reading,
attending worship, and singing hymns and psalms? If you prepare in this way,
then you will be able to give a substantive answer when asked about your
spiritual growth. Furthermore, you will benefit spiritually from the period of
self-examination.
Being Honest About Your Problems
Out of this spiritual inventory should flow a second area of
preparation. Are there any areas in your Christian experience with which you
are having problems? In
James 5:16 we are called to confess our sins to one another.
The pastoral visit is the perfect time to be honest and open about your
problems. Are you having trouble with consistently studying the Bible or family
devotions? Is there a particular sin that continues to get the upper hand in
your life? Do not wait until the problem is insurmountable. Be prepared to
share your problems and to seek counsel and prayer concerning them.
Seeking the Advice of Your Elders
A third area of preparation deals with the direct
solicitation of advice. Be prepared to ask those visiting you if they see any
problem areas in your life (or in the lives of your family members) that need
to be addressed. Do not be afraid to ask these kinds of questions. We have all
had spiritual blinders on at one time or another. Seeking the advice of others
who have gone through similar difficulties will provide you with helpful
insights to deal with your problems. In the same manner, ask your elders if
there are things that you could be doing to serve the Lord. We all have
promised to support the work of the church with our time, talents and
treasures. Finding out where we can be of use not only blesses us, but will
also give us an opportunity to be a blessing to our brothers and sisters in the
Lord.
Your Spiritual Doctors Are Here to Serve You
When an individual goes to his doctor for a check-up, he
usually gives some thought to how he is feeling. The individual evaluates his
various aches and pains, seeking to determine which are important and which are
not. The tragedy is that sometimes a person may fail to tell the doctor about a
particular symptom because he deems it unimportant, or worse, because he is
afraid of what it might mean. Yet, that symptom might be the early warning sign
of some serious disease that could be remedied more easily in its present
state. If the problem is ignored, then the disease worsens, until finally
measures that are more serious need to be taken, or as it happens, it is too
late to act. Your elders are physicians of your soul. Their task will be much
easier and more effective if you will examine yourself and speak openly and
frankly to them about your spiritual condition and needs. Remember that an
ounce of prevention is better than a pound of cure. This maxim is true for our
spiritual life as well. Let us practice spiritual preventative medicine!
Below is a list of questions for both congregants and elders
to review before a pastoral visit:
Test yourselves to see if you are in the faith; examine
yourselves.
2 Cor. 13:5
I. YOUR UNDERSTANDING OF YOURSELF
* Do you know for sure that you are a Christian?
* Are you engaged in regular Bible Study? Alternatively, are
you having difficulty with consistent Bible Study and family devotions?
* How is your prayer life? Do you pray regularly?
* Can you point to areas of your life where you have grown
recently?
* Are there any areas in your Christian experience in which
you are having problems?
* Is there a particular temptation or sin that continues to
defeat you spiritually?
* Where would you like to see yourself be spiritually in 1 year,
5 years, 10 years?
II. YOUR UNDERSTANDING OF GOD
* What has God been teaching you about Himself lately? Or,
what Attribute of God has meant the most to you recently?
* Are there any theological truths/doctrines that you are
wrestling with, confused about, or need clarification on? Have any of your
theological beliefs changed?
* What Christian books have you read lately?
* Are you able to share your faith with others? If not,
would you be interested in learning how to share your faith? Would you
like to be discipled?
III. YOUR RELATIONSHIP TO THE WORLD
* If you have a family, how is your family doing
spiritually? What are you doing with respect to family devotions (Bible
reading, prayer, catechism, etc.)?
* Do you see any evidence of grace in the lives of your
children? Are they showing an increased interest in the things of the Lord? Do
they like to pray and read the Bible? Are they baptized? Are they ready
to make a profession of faith?
* How is your relationship with your Spouse? Children?
Others?
* How do others see your walk as a Christian (home,
neighbors, work, church, etc.)?
* How are you seeking to affect the world around you with
your Christian faith?
IV. YOUR RELATIONSHIP TO THE CHURCH
* What would you like to see improved at our Church?
* What do you especially like about our Church?
* What kind of advice/counsel can we provide you with at
this time?
Dr. Joseph A. Pipa, Jr. is President and Professor of
Historical and Systematic Theology at Greenville Presbyterian Theological
Seminary in Greenville, South Carolina. He has pastored churches is
Mississippi, Texas, and California and is the author of numerous books, the
latest of which is Galatians: God's Proclamation of Liberty (Christian
Focus, 2011).